In response to #3d on the rules... what does it prove? Am I buying her heart?

Someone asked a GREAT question on facebook. What does paying for dinner prove? This is my response:

Okay, here’s the point with paying for dinner. It’s not about a free meal. I’d rather pay for a meal I eat by myself, than spend time with someone I have no interest in just because it’s on their dime. My general rule is a woman should always pay tip and be willing to contribute something. And she should always have her wallet on her.

The act shows he’s willing to invest more in you, and by invest, I mean time and attention. The reality of it is a man will not pay for a woman he doesn’t want to be bothered with. He will make sure he gives as little of himself as possible to keep her around. Not every man is like this, but from experience, many are.

I also know about dating when you’re not in a financially stable position. I’ve dated a man where we spent the night walking around our college campus and sitting on a bench talking and that was romantic. That said dates don’t have to be about spending money. If a man plans something special, that will come across whether or not he spends a dime. But as a general rule, the man who takes you to Mickey D’s and a movie and splits everything down the middle, it’s because he doesn’t think you are worth it. And that speaks volumes.